me: "Hello, Fece speaking"
co-worker: "Hi Fece, I was wondering if you could help me with something. Do you know who the contact person would be for negotiating site contracts?"
me: "Hmm.. I'm guessing Carol?"
co-worker: "Oh ok.. thanks. You know what, do you think you could reach out to Carol and...?"
About 3 out of 5 phone calls that I receive from this person happen just like this. It usually starts out as a simple inquiry, then it becomes a trap. But I don't think this is a superiority issue. This co-worker and I are supposed to be considered equals on the hierarchy (although her job function is more involved than mine so I would understand if she felt she was higher on the chain). I think it's just a matter social etiquette. I mean you just can't set people up like that maaannn. If you have a question, I can give you guidance but in the end you gotta handle your own business. And I don't even know the background of the issue! What am I gonna say to Carol once I contact her??
And what's worse? She's actually a nice person, which makes it even harder to correct... for me anyways. I never liked correcting people, ESPECIALLY when they take it well. It just makes me feel bad afterward. It's like once they concede, I instantly absorb their embarrassment and then I start apologizing. Aye... but one of these days, I need to figure out a nice way to say "do it yourself". In the mean time, I'll continue to take it and just vent about it on my blog like a good passive-aggressive Asian
*note - in order to protect the privacy of those involved, the names and events have been changed. All except Fece.. that's my real name